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Taking the Fear Out of Trips to the Dentist

Most kids who are "bad at the dentist" just haven't had the right experience yet.

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Dental anxiety in kids is incredibly common, and almost always learned, not fixed. A bad experience early on, a nervous parent in the waiting room, or simply walking into a room full of unfamiliar sounds and equipment is enough to set a child on the wrong path. Our job is to get them on the right one.

We don't have a one-size-fits-all approach to anxious kids. We have a lot of tools, a lot of patience, and a genuine interest in figuring out what works for your child specifically.

We Never Surprise Kids

The most reliable way to reduce anxiety is to eliminate the unknown. Before we do anything, we explain it in language that makes sense for your child's age. Then we show them, let them hear the suction, hold the mirror, feel the air from the hand piece. Then and only then do we proceed.

Kids who know what's coming are dramatically easier to work with than kids who don't. This approach takes more time upfront, but it pays off at every appointment after that.

Frequently Asked Questions

How often should I brush my child’s teeth?

I always recommend brushing twice per day, once in the morning and once before bed.  The timing of the first brushing isn’t critical – it can be as soon as your child wakes up, before or after breakfast, or before he leaves for school.  At night, it is best to brush right before bed.  After your child’s teeth have been brushed at night, he should not have anything else to eat, and only water to drink.  Rather than fight the food battle at my house, my kids know that if they eat after they brush, they just have to brush again before they go to bed.

Is an electric toothbrush better?

Research studies regarding electric toothbrushes has been flawed – it is almost always performed by the companies that manufacture and sell electric toothbrushes. There’s a more recent study that was designed properly and did actually show that patients brushed better with an electric toothbrush than a manual toothbrush.  For kids – I would say use whatever they like.  If they don’t like the feeling of an electric toothbrush, there’s no way that they will be as effective with brushing as a manual toothbrush, regardless of what anyone says.  Also, even the most expensive toothbrush doesn’t do anyone any good if it’s buried in a bathroom drawer and never gets used.  Toothbrush effectiveness is more about time and technique than it is about the tool that you use.

What kind of toothpaste should we use?

I always recommend using fluoride toothpaste.  For younger children who are still swallowing the toothpaste, I suggest using a small amount – like the size of one or two grains of rice.  Once children are able to spit out the toothpaste, you can increase the amount to the size of a pea.  Adult toothpaste has the same amount of fluoride as kids’ toothpaste.  The main difference is the flavor, but adult toothpaste can also have additives for whitening, sensitivity, etc.  I would try to find a flavor that your child likes, whether it’s fruity kids toothpaste or mint flavored adult toothpaste.

When do we start flossing?

Cavities on the baby teeth are most common in those in-between areas – where two teeth touch.  While your first thought might be that flossing is the best way to prevent cavities between the teeth, the research doesn’t support that idea.  The best way to prevent any cavity on any surface of a tooth is to drink water and white milk only, avoid sticky sweets and brush twice per day with fluoride toothpaste.

Studies regarding the benefits of floss are very conclusive that floss does help to prevent gum disease, but gum disease tends to be a problem in adulthood, not childhood.  I do believe that flossing daily is a great habit for children to get into, but I would never sacrifice time or effort with tooth brushing in order to add floss to their routine.  When you feel that your child has mastered tooth brushing, then I think it’s appropriate to encourage flossing daily.

Establishing Trust With Your Palos Heights Dentist

If you think your child will have a difficult time cooperating, it is a great time for you to come in! We would rather meet your little one several times for happy check-ups so that your child gets to know our office and builds trust with our team. This way, if your child is ever in need of dental treatment or has an emergency, cooperation will be easier because they will have established a level of trust with us.

The Importance of Regular Dentist Visits

For children who are inherently anxious, regular dental visits are even more important.  If we can see your child regularly for cleanings and check-ups, we can help keep your child's teeth healthy.  Healthy teeth mean fewer appointments, less invasive treatment, fewer missed days of school, no dental pain, and less anxiety about the dentist.

Older Siblings Are Our Secret Weapon

If you have an older child who's comfortable in our office, bring them along when a younger sibling comes in. Watching a big brother or sister sail through a cleaning; calm, easy, maybe even enjoying it, does more for a nervous younger child than anything we can say. We use this intentionally when families give us the opportunity.

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Sometimes the Best Thing Is Just Something Else to Focus On

We have TVs in our treatment rooms, and we're not apologetic about it. For a lot of kids, being engaged with something they enjoy is all it takes to get through a cleaning or a procedure without a struggle. We'll take whatever works.

Meet Our Doctor:

Dr. Richard Facko | Palos Pediatric Dentistry

Richard Facko DDS, MS

Meet Dr. Richard Facko: Your Pediatric Dentist

Dr. Richard Facko, DDS, is the founder and Pediatric Dentist at Palos Pediatric Dentistry, PC. Since founding the practice in 2013, I have been dedicated to providing a high level of care for the families in my hometown. 

I grew up in Palos Heights, went to Palos 128 and Marist, and came back here to build my practice and raise my family. When I see patients in the office, I'm not seeing strangers; I'm seeing my neighbors, my kids' classmates, people I run into at ...

Nitrous Oxide for Added Comfort

Nitrous oxide (laughing gas) is safe, effective, and fast-acting. It takes the edge off anxiety without putting kids to sleep, and it wears off within minutes so there's no grogginess afterward. For kids who need more than distraction and encouragement to get through treatment comfortably, it's often the right call and it makes the whole experience better for everyone in the room.

We don't push it when it isn't needed. But when it is, it makes a real difference.

Sedation and General Anesthesia for More Support

For some children, behavioral techniques and nitrous oxide aren't enough. Whether it's significant dental anxiety, a large amount of treatment needed at once, or a child who simply isn't able to cooperate safely in a conventional setting, pharmacologic management — oral sedation, IV sedation, or general anesthesia — may be the right path.

This isn't a failure. For the right child in the right situation, it's the most conservative and compassionate option available. We work with each family individually to find the approach that fits their child's needs and their own comfort level.

For a full overview of our sedation options, including where we perform general anesthesia and what to expect, visit our Sedation Dentistry & Anesthesia page.

Flexible Approach, Consistent Care in Palos Heights

Every child who comes in leaves with an exam and a cleaning, we adjust our approach based on what they're ready for that day, but we always accomplish something. The approach changes; the standard of care doesn't.

If your child has had a hard time at the dentist before, or if you're nervous about how they'll do, just tell us when you call. We'll plan accordingly from the very first visit. You can reach us at (708) 263-6708 or schedule online.

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